Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Lunch Hour + No Cell Phone = Boring

I forgot my phone today and my lunch hour is rather boring. Everything I do at lunch is on my phone. I have my stupid little games that I play, my kindle is there, and of course there's always texting. I never realized how much I do on my phone. I know it's silly (and kinda sad) but I kind of feel like I left my arm at home.

This little break from my phone has caused me to try and remember what I did for lunch before my phone...Oh yeah there was this time in my life where I spent lunch with people. Of course my work atmosphere has changed and I tend to eat lunch alone more often than not.... :\ I guess that's why my phone is such a good thing to have while I'm eating; it passes the time.

On the bright side of leaving my phone at home. This little break has given me the time to blog mid-day so that's a good thing. :)

Signed, the girl who's ready to have her phone back -
Jessy <3

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Friendships Aren't Forever

Recently I was talking to a friend about one of her friendships, while we were talking I kept thinking about an email that I got a while ago. It was one of those forwarded emails but I've kept it because it was one of the rare forwards that was worth keeping. I have attached it below so you can read it. But basically it talks about how we have different types of friends over the course of our lives. Some people are our friends for a reason, some are in our lives for a season, and others are with us for a lifetime.

Now I believe all of us strive to have those lifetime friendships, and I think some of us (myself included) try to shape all of our friends into lifetime friends. We think, "He/She will be my friend forever!" but the truth is not all of our friends are meant to be in our lives forever. As I look back on my own life, I see some of the examples of friends that I've had for a reason or a season. The email has a clear distinction between a "reason" friend and a "season" friend, however personally I think the two kind of mush together a little bit. In the email the "reason" friends are in our lives to meet a specific need, like helping you through a hard time, providing guidance and support, and then disappearing. Whereas it says the "season" friends teach you something, they bring joy as well as help you learn, and grow. 

Like I said, I think the two are almost one in the same. I don't believe that a true friend should ever be in your life just to meet a need; I believe friendship is more than that. Friendship isn't one-sided, it isn't one person strictly serving a purpose for another person. That would be called using someone and it's not a characteristic that I would associate with friendship. Sure serving a purpose in someone's life comes along with being a friend but I believe we affect our friends just as much as they effect us. All of our friends are in our lives for a reason. They help us through the hard times, give guidance and teach us something but some of them are only in our lives for a season. After that season, some may disappear completely and others may just become distant friends, they are still friends but you are not as close as you used to be. We need to learn to accept this fact and not fight against it.

As for lifetime friends, these are the friends that we will always be tight with. They are the friends that teach us lifetime lessons. The ones that we count on to say the right thing, and they usually do - whether it's what we want to hear or not. They are the honest ones, you don't ever have to worry about stepping on their toes because they are just as honest with you as you are with them. They challenge you and make you question your choices. They may be hard on your sometimes but it's only because they love you. They are the friends that will stand by you through thick and thin, and help you bury a body if you need jk ;) 

I am very blessed to have several friends that I consider to be lifetime friends. Some of these people I have known for years and years, others I've known a short amount of time. However it doesn't matter when I met my "lifetime" friends I feel like I have known them my whole life, they are very close to my heart, and they are there to stay. They are my friends that I don't need to talk to, or see, all the time but yet when we do talk, or spend time together, we pick up right where we left off as if no time has passed at all. These friends help me grow in ways that effect my life, not just bits and pieces of my life but my whole life. They each have had a great impact on who I am and I am very grateful for them. 

So as for my blog post title, it's true, some friendships aren't forever but each one makes you who you are. Each person in our lives is there to teach us something. Some teach us to love, some teach us to trust, some are there to open our eyes and recognize those who aren't our friends - even if you thought they were. Some make us realize that we aren't the type of friend that we thought we were. Be grateful for those that are in your life and remember that they may not be there forever, but your friends will be there for as long as you need them to be there. 

Jessy <3

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Monday, January 6, 2014

30 Things About Me: Learning the Hard Way

What is something you learned the hard way?

Well, there are many things that I've had to learn the hard way but I thought I would share this one so that you can tell every epileptic that you know. Never, EVER take NyQuil.

I had always heard that I, being an epileptic, wasn't supposed to take NyQuil, or any other antihistamine. I had always assumed that it was because NyQuil/antihistamines makes you sleepy and that doesn't fair well with your meds that also make you tired. While that may be true, that is not all it can do.

In December 2011, I got sick. I hadn't had a cold in what seemed like forever and I decided that in order to get some good sleep I would take NyQuil, I figure if I'm asleep it doesn't really matter if I get sleepy right?! Well, over the course of a couple days I took maybe two doses of NyQuil and felt better so I went back to work. About half way through my first day back I started having a partial seizure.

Now during 2011 I had been having simple partial seizures all year. The seizure was usually just my left hand/arm jerking. I always went home from work when that happened because sure I say "just my hand/arm jerking" but for me that turns into full blown panic attack - it's not pretty. Anyway this seizure was a little different than that. Instead of just my hand/arm, it was the entire left side of my body, to the point where I couldn't really walk. Needless to say I went home and straight to bed.

Usually when I would have my simple partial seizures I would go to sleep, wake up a few hours later and be fine. This time I slept for about 6 hours and when I woke up the left side of me was still jerking about every minute, maybe 2. It continued until about 9pm that night and was only stopped by a very, very short grand mal seizure. It was like a system reboot. If you have a problem with your computer what's the one thing everyone asks? Have you tired turning it off and on again?! LOL My brain needed a momentary shutdown. I can kind of giggle about now but at the time...not so much.

So in short, I learned to always, always follow the directions on pill bottles, take the warnings seriously, and  listen to the advice of others.

Your "thankful that is over" epileptic,
Jessy <3

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Random Things That Make Me Laugh

I have come across quite a few pictures lately that have made me laugh and I'd like to share some.

I'm going through my many blog drafts and realized I don't know why I didn't post this one. A spam of funny pics is good enough without comments yeah?! I must say this tho...the coffee mug. Sooooo true, I need to make one of those!  

Jessy <3

RIP To My 20-Something Years

My mom reminded me that today is my last day to be a 20-something because I turn 30 tomorrow. I know that tomorrow morning I'll wake up and won't feel any different but for some reason turning 30 is messing with my head. Not quite sure why, but it is.

Maybe it's because I thought that I would've done more or done certain things by the time I was 30. I guess that's why my resolution for this year is to accomplish more of my life goals, one at a time. As I look back over the past 10 years I wonder what happened to all that time? It feels like it flew by but yet it also feels like I turned 20 like a decade ago... LOL ;) Ok, ok...I know that was corny. Truth is sometimes it feels like it was a lifetime ago. lol

Overall the past 10 years have been great! Sure, there were ups and downs cuz that's just life. But I got married, found a job that I love, made lots of new friends and reconnected with some "old" ones. I became an aunt. I've moved 4 times and you would think I'd have less stuff by now but no, I don't. I lost my dad to cancer but gained a second one and have been blessed by knowing both. I know I could list off a bunch of other things because even the seemingly "small" things make up something in your life. However my brain is not co-operating at the moment. lol

So as I bid goodbye my 20's I raise a glass to the next 10 years. I can't wait to see what's in store! :)

Jessy <3

P.S. Look at the card my mommy sent me! I love it and the sentiment on the inside was very sweet. Oh and you see that adorable little baby?! That would be me :D ...almost 30 years ago. lol