3 Words That You Should Never Say

A week or two ago I had a lady come into my office, we'll call her Martha, who was frustrated with herself because she didn't know how to use a computer. She was feeling very "lost" in her class, all she wanted to learn was how to send "letters" on a computer and do research for her English class, instead she was learning terminology that made no sense to her.

From the get-go I could tell that Martha had very low self-esteem, she couldn't understand why her late husband, and her kids could use computers but she still didn't know how. I listened to Martha recount how smart her husband was, and how her kids were impatient with her because they think using a computer is so easy. Martha grew up in a generation that didn't have computers but she was trying to live up to a standard that today's society has set for us. She felt that she had to prove to her kids that she was smart enough to live up to their standards as well. As her frustration turned to tears she said 3 words, "I am stupid," and my heart hurt for her.

Now, if you are reading this blog post, more than likely you know how to use a computer. But think about it, how often do you convince yourself that you are stupid because you don't understand how something works? You aren't as good at something as someone else, so you feel like a failure because you believe that you have to live up to their standards. How many times do you just give up, because you believe that you are too stupid to learn, or you can't become this person that you are expected to be.

I've been there, in some ways I'm still there. There are things that I feel like I am too stupid to learn, I'll never live up to certain standards, and sometimes I feel like I'll never be the person, or woman, that I'm supposed to be. But as I talked with Martha I wanted her to realize that she wasn't stupid, she has her own strong suits, and the only standard that she has to live up to is her own. The more I thought about my conversation with her, the more I felt the need to share with all my readers that you are not stupid. I don't care what society says, or what standards you feel like you have to live up to, those 3 words, "I am stupid," should never be said, ever.

I don't know where you are at this point in your life, I don't know what your struggles are, but I do know that you can only be the person that you are born to be. You have your own strong suits, and your strong suits are going to be different than those around you. If we were all the same, the world would be very unbalanced, because you can't know it all. So take my advice, don't ever think that you are stupid or worthless because you're not. You are imperfectly perfect. :)

Your imperfect little blogger,
Jessy <3