Saturday, August 6, 2011

Waffles Vs. Spaghetti

In one of my posts a few days ago I referred to myself as spaghetti and told you that I would have to tell you about that later. Well it's later. That reference comes from a Christian book called Men are like Waffles and Women are like Spaghetti by Bill & Pam Farrel.

My hubby, Andy, and I read the book a few years ago and it really us understand one another better. It is written for couples, if I remember right there are even "His" and "Her" chapters. However, I would still recommend this book to everyone whether they are in a relationship or not. Especially if you are interested in a relationship. It really helps you understand the difference between the way men and women think and process information.

The basic idea is that men process thoughts and ideas in boxes like the squares of waffles. They can usually think about one topic at a time. Now that topic might have other topics within the original topic, but it is usually still lumped under one broader subject. Take sports example, men can talk sports and can talk about all aspects of sports, from teams, to players, to different types of sports and everything makes sense. But they generally have a harder time going from talking about sports to talking about something like clothes.

A women's thought process is more like a plate of spaghetti, so everything that a woman thinks about is somehow attached to another topic. So, an original topic of sports can easily move to thoughts about kids and then to the topic of school and what they need to buy at the store for lunches /dinner that night or what clothes they should wear in the morning. So they can move from sports to clothes in no time flat. Women's thoughts have a tendency to be more driven by emotions so even though that strain of thoughts may not make sense to a man, it makes Perfect sense to a woman.

The book makes everything a lot clearer and it really does help when you are trying to understand why your man can't just follow you. And it can help men understand how a women can go off on a totally random topic and leave his head spinning.

1 comment:

  1. Interesting :o) Ive also learned (my man being really quiet) that sometimes if he doesnt answer right away its not because he wasnt listening but hes thinking about what hes going to say. He just has to process and think a little before he answers.